Normally the male partner is very eager to jump in and plant his seed. You will see this many times with couples whose marriage and communication skills are very weak.

Expectations are normally set too high for both partners and their first experience at a dance club or party can be a big let down for one or both partners.

Normally most couples have not done enough research into the swinging lifestyle.

If you have never attended a swing club or event and this is the first time both of you have been thinking about it and reading this information, you will be happy to know that you are leagues ahead of the many couples who do no research at all.

Normally first time couples have many different feelings good and bad during their first lifestyle experience.

Always attend your first event with the expectation of having a good time with your own partner.

How Far Are You Willing To Go?

Normally most couples will attend their first lifestyle club or event without even discussing the limits of play.

In most cases the male partner will suggest, lets just go see what happens so we can check the club out.

This is a very big mistake

Normally the male is all excited about attending and seeing what he can get his hands on while the female partner is scared to death.

What surprises most couples, is the opposite is almost true when reality takes hold at the club or party.

The male partner usually has a hard time finding a new female partner to dance with, while the female takes to the lifestyle waters much quicker than the males do.

Normally the male partner will get upset that his female partner is having a much better time than he is having.

The male partner will normally sit at his table getting upset and drinking too much.

Most ladies are so surprised how exciting and stimulating the new experiences are making her feel.

Most men introduce the ladies to the lifestyle, but it is normally the ladies that keep their male partners in the lifestyle.

It is very important to discuss all the ground rules and what limits or levels of play both of you are willing to go. You will both regret it if you don't.

It is Normal To Be Nervous Many new couples to the lifestyle are very nervous of making the first step to visit an adult club fearing their functions are attended by large numbers of gawkers, exhibitionists, voyeurs and sex is being performed in ever corner.

All clubs are very sensitive to making new couples feel at home and go to great lengths to provide a discreet and safe environment.

Before attending a new adult club, be sure and address any fears or questions you may have about their functions.

You will be pleasantly surprised that you were not the first couple to ask the same question or had similar fears.

Club owners and couples in the lifestyle want you to join them and this could be one of the most exciting adventures you and your partner take together.

Many club owners will talk or meet with you privately to discuss the lifestyle, or your fears or show you their club.

Always go at the pace of the slowest partner


I Want Social First & He Wants Sex

Some couples will want to get to know their new partners or couples first before engaging in sex. This is normal for many couples and is a big turn on for them to know the couples first.

For many other couples, the opposite is true. The big turn on is meeting a complete stranger and having hot unlimited sex before getting social.

It is normal for some couples to not want the social aspect of swinging at all. For others, the social aspect is mandatory to make them feel comfortable.

Take the time to discuss what turns you both on.