Most singles get very frustrated when attempting to join couples clubs.

Many singles are very rude, ignorant, pushy, abusive, etc.

If you fit into any of these categories as a single, your chances of getting involved in the swinging lifestyle are absolutely "0"

There are hundreds of singles clubs and bars out there, but the grass[Sex] is always greener on the other side!

The swinging lifestyle is very sexual and open in nature.

Many singles get impressions that swingers dances and private parties are full of willing partners to play with.

Most swingers are open to many different sexual fantasies that will intrigue many people, single or not.

Many single males are in actual fact married with partners that want nothing to do with the swinging lifestyle, but they decide to venture out on their own, despite their partners wishes.

If you are unable or unwilling to find a partner of the opposite sex willing to attend an erotic dance club, your chances of adapting to the swinging lifestyle would be very difficult.

Most swingers take years getting to know and explore their partners fantasies before joining a lifestyle club.

Most clubs that do allow singles require that the single be part of a threesome with a member couple, most clubs do not allow singles to attend a party alone.

Many of the single males are typically married men who are cheating on their female partners.

Some ladies in this area as well, but it is primarily the married male that is looking for sex on the side of his marriage.


How do we know that you are cheating?

Many men that are cheating will not give out their home phone number or home address.

Some couples permit their partner to play in the lifestyle on their own or with a different couple.

Most swingers are playing openly in a sexual lifestyle that offers no reason or incentive to cheat!

Most swingers are deeply in love with their own partner.

Some clubs do accept singles, but membership fees for single men is extremely high and very cheap for single ladies.

Some clubs love to cash in on the lifestyle and your money helps finance other benefits for the club.

Some clubs tolerate singles, just to get your dollars in their pocket.

Many singles are surprised that activities inside clubs are all consensual.

Nothing is a free for all at lifestyle clubs.

Many single males pay lots of money to just watch the parties activities and many ladies turning down their advances.

Most couples join the swinging lifestyle to share and see their partner have a good time, most singles join to take or have sex.

Most ladies are primarily interested in other couples or ladies.

A very small percentage will enjoy the activity of a single male.


Guide To Successful Swinging For Singles

Find A Willing Partner!

This is the quickest method of getting involved in the swinging lifestyle.

You need to meet many different women and find ladies that are open about their sexuality and willingness to explore it with you.

Once you find a willing partner, submit an application for membership.

If you are not sexually active with the opposite sex, your chances of joining the swinging lifestyle are very low or almost impossible.

Couples or singles who experiment sexually with other partners will enjoy trying the swinging lifestyle clubs.

If your attitude about yourself is very low with regards to your looks, weight, height, penis size, or any physical disability, your chances are reduced even more!

Many men tell us that they can't find a willing partner.

This lifestyle is not for every couple or single.

It is very hard in life to find two people that match and enjoy sexual experimentation.

Many couples spend years together as a couple before joining a swing club.

Don't assume you will find a partner and join a club within a few weeks or months.

Some singles will even hire an escort and apply to clubs, in the hopes of getting lucky with other lady members of swing clubs.

Don't even attempt this route!!



Find A Specialty and Use It!

If you have a large cock or can perform some special sexual favors that others are not willing to do, you can create a special niche for yourself.

Some singles take time to let couples know about their specialty in massage, taking home videos, bisexual play.

Some singles will venture into bondage, S&M or role playing etc.


Take Your Time!!!

If you are pushy or aggressive with club owners or other couples, your chances of getting an introduction or invitation to a private party are absolutely "0"

Progression for most couples in the swinging lifestyle is a gradual process and can take many years for some couples.

It can take even longer for singles to get involved or progress to different levels of play in the lifestyle.

If you are just looking for quick sex for yourself, you are in the wrong lifestyle.


Avoid What You Want!!!!

Most singles come into the lifestyle with the "I" attitude.

I want this or I want to try this or I really want you to do this to me, etc.

Couples or clubs that do invite you to attend are asking you to join them for their desires, not yours.

When couples play with other couples there is a great deal of sharing.

When couples play with a single, it is normally to fulfill their sexual fantasies.
Using you like a toy, so to speak.

Many couples will get upset if a single starts demanding how the evening will progress or what they want first etc.

Singles need to let themselves be used like a toy a little.

You are there to help, but you will enjoy yourself in the process.

When couples feel more comfortable, you will be able to call more of the shots.

It is a learning experience for everyone and you need to go at the pace of the slowest person!

Never push or get insistent.


No always means No at any time.

The more you make the couple feel comfortable and sexually satisfied, your opportunities will increase in time.

You want to get invited back.


Be 100% Honest

If you lie or mislead any person or club, your name will spread within the swinging community very quickly and your dishonesty will proceed you wherever you go.

If you cause discomfort or do not respect peoples privacy, it is amazing how fast you will get your own back.

Many couples and singles destroy countless opportunities in the lifestyle by cheating, making threats, telling lies, playing head games etc.

All clubs and couples respect couples and singles that are honest.

Some singles ask married ladies to meet on the side for sex.

This gets singles removed from attending any future get together their name is passed on to other clubs and couples to help protect the integrity of the lifestyle in whole.


Clean Up & Dress For Success

Swinging is like dating, you need to clean up, look your best, be on your best behaviour in any environment (club, bedroom, chat room, community web site, private party, etc.).

If you drink too much or act inappropriately, you will not go far in any social club or lifestyle.

If you think splashing your nude pics on the net will get ladies or couples falling at your feet, you are starting off on the wrong foot.

Every couple enjoys foreplay, in the bedroom or on the net. Especially for singles!

Your attitude or first impressions will come across on the net or in your online ads.


Read - Learn - Listen

Couples take months or years of discussion when venturing into the swinging lifestyle.

If you do not understand what swinging is all about and what couples are going through, you will not be open to hearing what they want or how you can help them.

If you are well read on the subject of swinging and willing to go at the pace of the slowest person, you will begin to share experiences with other couples as they progress in the lifestyle with you.


Be Polite & Courteous

Some couples you will like and others you might not know how you feel.

If you approach someone for a dance and they turn you down, don't burn any bridges and think or say something terrible.

No does not mean no forever or is degrading you in any way.

Not everyone is a match and saying No or No Thank you is very polite and no other reason is necessary.

If you smile, be friendly and approachable, you will make many friends and make others feel comfortable around you.

People who focus on one early rejection can put a on a sour face and will not attract any other person with a cloud hanging over their head.

It is very normal to be nervous on your first time out at any new club, private party, especially if it is your first time out in the lifestyle.

Many new couples will have a drink or two to calm their nerves, but too much will not make you very likable.

No one likes a drunk.


Be Yourself & Enjoy The Evening

This may sound silly, but many people forget to be themselves.

Don't be shy to let others know what you enjoy at home.

The old saying of "Ask and you will receive!" can be very true in the swinging lifestyle for many people.

Many couples enjoy different things like:

• Leather
• Lingerie
• Rubber
• Toys
• Exhibitionism
• >Voyeurism
• Spanking
• Bondage
• Making home movies
• Gang bangs
• Bisexuality
• And much more.

Privacy Is Paramount

Every person in the swinging lifestyle values their privacy.

What you see or hear at any club party must stay at that party.

Never push or pry into another persons personal life or work life.

If you respect every members privacy, they will respect yours.

If any person offers you contact information, ensure you remain discreet.

Many couples have other family or children that live at home or have access to the home computer.

Always be on the safe side and confirm you have the right person on the phone etc.

Do not bring cameras or any other recording device into any parties or dances.

Most swingers do not want their picture in the newspapers or on the internet.

Happy swinging!