The majority of people entering into or thinking about the lifestyle are very nervous.

Being nervous is normal.

You are not alone if you think you are:

• Too Young Or Old
• Too Overweight Or Skinny
• Too Short Or Tall
• Unable To Live Up To Sexual Epectations

Everyone feels self conscious about:

• Age
• Performance
• Some Part Of Their Body

And thinks: "How can I compete with other males or females, if they all look like the pictures on the Internet?"

Reality in swinging is a great leveler of those who think:

• Too High Of Themselves.
• And Others Who Have Doubts About Their Looks Or Performance.

Swingers come in every:

• Age
• Size
• Shape
• Color

Most swing couples would never dream of having their pictures put on the internet.

Many couples have sensitive jobs or are well known in their community.

Most pictures of couples or singles on the internet are paid professionals or paid amateurs with a few voyeurs thrown in for good measure.


All of us are human and all the rules of:

• Gravity
• Child Birth
• Operations
• Accidents
• Occupational Stresses

apply to all of us in some way or another.

No one person is perfect and all these differences in:

• Age
• Size
• Attitude
• Performance

is the spice that makes swinging so much fun.

If all of us looked and performed the same, life and sex could get very boring.

Some couples will advertise for the perfect couple or (Ken & Barbie)

When they find the perfect looking couple, they usually find that something lacks in attitudes or sexual performance.

Looks are important for sexual attraction, but everyone is attracted by different shapes, moods, smells, and sizes.

Every couple has something different to add to the swinging lifestyle and if they are open and adventurous they will receive a great deal of fun from it.


Competition

Swinging is primarily a couples activity and is a sharing of yourselves with other consenting adults.

Many women who are new to the swinging lifestyle are very shy or nervous with showing their bodies in front of others.

Most women in the lifestyle are married with children.

Giving birth to children changes the shape, breast size and weight of almost every woman.

Gravity and aging make many women feel self conscious.

All of these fears and concerns literally melt away for almost every women once they meet and get more comfortable with the other ladies in the lifestyle.

No matter what your age, size, shape, you will find:

• other women younger
• same age
• older
• smaller
• and bigger

When other men start approaching them at clubs and find them very sexually attractive, their confidence builds rapidly.

Women actually adapt to the swinging lifestyle much quicker than most men do.

Many men who are new to the swinging lifestyle are nervous about their:

• Body Weight
• Penis Size
• Ability Of Being Able To Satisfy Other Women.

Most men in the lifestyle are married with children.

• Age
• Gravity

These factors can change body weight, skin texture and stamina.

Many men are self conscious about someone being bigger and better than he is with his partner.

It usually takes much longer for men to adapt to the swinging lifestyle than it does for women.

Many men get reluctant to share their wife with other male partners.

These fears and concerns or (jealousy) do go away once they realize that they are sharing, not taking.

Some ladies are more sexually turned on with a small penis, or cuddling, or cunilingus.

Men need to trust their partners and feel they have a lot to contribute of themselves to other ladies.

It is very important that you enter swinging at a comfort level that makes both of you feel at ease.