I tried to post this as a reply to the related incident, but couldn't, so it gets its own forum now. So I finally want to clear the air about the whole situation that occured in July, where I was openly attacked in the chatroom and accused of knowingly having herpes and having unprotected sex with others. A wife had supposedly gotten herpes from her husband who had cheated on her and had unprotected sex. She was justifiably upset, but rather than choose to highlight a discussion about the importance of practising safe sex, she attacked me by name in open chat, after briefly accusing me by PM. She continued to addreess the whole room with her tirade, even after being asked politely by several members to stop and to address her concerns to me privately. She was reported by myself and others and her profile was subsequently deleted a few days later. She even started harassing a playmate of mine who had been trying to secure a host for me the following day, when the man in London that I was supposed to meet and stay with overnite was MIA and unable to be contacted. I was without web access, but was texting to my playmate. Her accusations were all lies, as to me being the source. I was never contacted directly by a playmate informing me that he was infected or suspected he was. Although there had been a handful of times several months prior to this that condoms were not used, being clean was always discussed. I was practising safe sex at the time and continue to do so as I am not in a committed relationship. I was tested specifically for herpes within 48 hours of the accusation and was clean. I have also since had full STI testing a few months ago and all tests were negative. However, I do get a cold sore a few times a year and refrain from both kissing and performing oral sex as soon as I feel a slight tingle on my lip. My playmates will attest to this. I am a very caring and compassionate playmate and would never knowingly risk any one's health. I can only hope that my chosen playmates extend the same honestly and trust to me. Whenever we have sex with someone who is not our committed partner, then it is everyone's responsibility to practice safe sex. This is particularly important for attached men who play, without their partner's knowledge, with others who have multi partners, such as myself. I hope this has laid to rest those wondering about my health status and maybe encouraged others to rethink their lack of condom use. I am D & D free and plan to stay that way!!