With single males exactly? I see profile after profile screaming "NO SINGLE MALES"...What is the problem with a great looking, polite man? Never in all our years in the lifestyle have I had a single male be aggressive, rude, direspectful or negative toward me or my husband in any way. We are attractive and fun..but suckers we are not. We know a jerk when we meet one...no matter how smooth a guy (married or not) thinks he is.

So, I have to ask the question...Does your profile state "no single males" because the HUSBAND would feel that the single was competition or have you let maybe ONE jerk that has messaged you, spoil what could possibly be a pleasurable experience?

I WILL ADD...Now that I have posted this...I don't want to be over run by single males that read it...haha...We don't exchange emails or pics with ANYONE...not even couples. We post where we are going in our profile and if you seem like friendly people, you will probably meet us.

All my London Swinger parties encourage single males.  I've been running them for 14 years.  I've only had one complaint in all that time about a guest.  He was educated and is not a perfect guest.  The problems with single males is an Urban Myth.  As long as swinger events are run properly there are never problems with single males.  One may as well ban single females or those of another religion.

My only complaint, as host, is guests who encounter problems do not tell the host.  If you are not willing to speak up then do not complain after you leave.  The role of the host is to hear about any personality conflicts and deal with them.  Those who remain silent are the ones who complain the loudest AFTER the fact and do nothing to resolve the issues.

This is why my London swinger parties encourage single males as there is never a problem.  The regulars keep an eye on things and we educate the newbees.

If you are going to ban single males, why not also ban husbands who are on their second, third, fourth or fifth wife?  Single males are single by choice. They have not married multiple times.

Thanks for the input. I don't know why we have never been "accosted" by single males...not that I am complaining mind you. We choose our single males, as we do the couples we are interested in playing with, on the spur of the moment so there is no lead up to something that may or may not happen. Maybe for us at least that has been the reason why we have had all good experiences...plus, we have been asked more than once if the hubby was "on the force" if you know what I mean...he can look intimidating I suppose, but once you get past a look and say hello you see he is a pussy cat that wants to play...lol...maybe that look has something to do with it..I don't know. I just found it curious after browsing profiles that there were so many couples absolutely adament about no single males. It just got me thinking and wondering about the reasons behind it.

Woolwhich...You actually got an email that SAID that you were making a dangerous assumtion and that you should be careful??...Good lord. That's not just rude but scary...I think too that I would say that the male (married or single) that asks for the "discreet hook up" is not actually rude, but stupid and simply put, just a jerk. DELETE! hahaha.

As for banning people, I don't think anyone should be banned for their marital status or relationship situation.