How many males are on here alone because there wife says no to swinging?

Care to share your story on the wifes response to you asking her about the subject of swinging?

We're going to hazard a guess and say at least 50% of the 'single' guys on here aren't really single at all. Personally, we find it rather offensive when these guys use this and other couples sites as a springboard to cheat and try to disguise it as swinging.

If you want to have an affair, go to Ashley Madison....don't try and involve us or any other loving couples in your sordid, troubled little lives.

I would have to agree with you.

Id be interested and hope to see some feedback from the single member males on this topic.

Would a married male not be better in the sense of knowing there only seeking pleasure and not love as they already have that in there lives?

I have been in a swinging relationship before..... and have delt with these "single " guys as well, going as far as sending pics of thier wives  with out them knowing telling people they are into it to get close to real couples.

I AM a SINGLE male and would like to stay in the lifestyle, and not looking to play anyone because as i said i and my partner were  played before and its just a waste of everyones time and imagination. So in turn guys like myself get shafted because of the ones that have no common sense

How about those of us that are on here because she says "no" to sex in general??

I make it clear to people I chat with what my "situation" at home is, and that I'm just looking to find what I'm missing there.  If some ladies/couples don't want to continue after that, then that's fine, that's their choice.  I say "goodbye & goodluck" and let them move on.

Some people don't mind a "married" man, if he seems stable and sensible, as he is just seeking the sexual aspect.  Others (most I think) don't want the trouble of dealing with him (tougher trying to schedule a get-together, no overnighters, can't host, etc), and most commonly, they just don't want to get sucked into the middle of a "situation" and become the reason for it getting worse.

Just my "2" cents on the issue ...

I couldn't of put it any better.... we find that happens more times than we would like to see happen..It gets really frustrating when you think you found the perfect couple and then they spring it on you just before you're supposed to meet,that they are actually single BUT, they can get a lady friend. Sorry but that's not what we are looking for. I agree with you...if they want an affair go to the local escort service or to the bar and pick somebody up. Leave the swinging to the people that want to swing with their spouses and not the fly by night wannabe's.

I understand many of the conecerns the cuples have in the misrepresentation of some of the males, I for one am a single male and I also did not get any while at home,,so now ,,,quite single,,d&d free,,I am free to travel,,and do as I please.I do not mind being approached by single males but I also do not like being told oh by the way can you bring

a woman/lady/gf/wiife? So as in previous posts,,,be honest.

I am a single guy too...  honestly single...  and live alone, but because I have pics of me with women, I have a lot of people wanting to get together with me and my "wife".  So it's kinda the reverse of what was originally posted.  Many folks think that I'm posting as a couple and don't read that I'm SINGLE.

I also know a lot of people don't think that singles are really swingers, as swinging originally was all about trading partners....    however, I do think that in the changing times, many singles are welcome in the lifestyle to fit the desires of those who want an "extra", not a couple.

As previously stated though, there are a lot of cheating males out there, which makes it doubly difficult for those of us who are honest about our status.  We always have this aura around us of not being on the up and up.

  I must agree with SexyOntCpl!!!! To a degree. :) I myself do not wish to become any cheating hubbies dirty lil secret. Just because my J and me swing does not mean I'm open to anyone except who I choose to be. :) Along the lines of swing some ladies are just as bad as the gents. :( They use the lifestyle to cheat. In regards to meeting a  cpl as a cpl then  SOME wifes do attempt meeting there hubbies behind the other wifes back.  This in my respect is no better then the cheating hubby. :)

As for the sexless marrages out there they are many and not just men in those circumstances but ladies as well. I do believe everyone loves sex. :) In that case I say more power to ya. Just leave it at sex where it should be. And also do respect swingers choices as to wether or not they will accommodate you. :) Don't just naturally assume they want to cheat with you.

I have to agree with pretty much all I have read. We are posted as a cpl, we are a cpl. We live together and are engaged but as my wife works on a computer and does not find chatting fun for that reason I think many ppl take me to be one of those cheating hubbies or lieing single men. Well I am not. Also I have to agree with the fact that many women use swinging as an avenue to cheat. I/we for one will not get involved with a woman that swings ( with hubbies permission ) no matter what the excuse. A cpl is a cpl is a cpl. The last thing the Mrs or I want is to look up after hearing that omonis " click" behind my ear. Just for the record it was my Mrs's idea to swing and hey, who am I to say no? lol.

sorry soc gunna have to disagree with you a lil' bit but only to raise your 50 to 75% (have to account for the ones posing as single fems)

 How silly of me to exclude those idiots from my estimated percentage. Thank you ever so much in showing me my error in judgement.....

*smacks mrs.tease's bum and runs for the hills*

Trust is the Case between partners!!!! This is biggest reason wfies say NO!!! I know I did when J first approached me about the lifestyle. :) But hell it's all good when ya got trust.

I guess I'm in the cheatin husband catagory -my story ,wife went thru cancer treatment and hasn't felt like sex in ,,oh 4 years or so ,do I support her yes ,do I want to leave no ! whats left ? I say on my page I'm married ,not trying  to pretend I'm more than I am

A very interesting question.  However, some of the males here are single by choice.  Never divorced three times either.  Never married.  Some of us are content being single by choice.  I'm 50 and am content.

I created my own successful Swinger parties just to allow single men to attend, men who are happy at being single.

The ones who are cheeating never show up as I record all ID and they know it cold lead to a divorce if they were caught.

Couples have great sex, multiple orgams, and go home together in love.

I think the silliest thing is that if no one said anything about their personal situation...who would know??...I don't necessarily agree with cheating...and I have to say "necessarily" agree because I have known cheaters and what drove them to it...so, I can't say all cheaters are a**holes. They had their own reasons...which were none of my business...and they are still my friends.

That being said..I don't agree with cheating necessarily, but when it comes to the lifestyle, first of all...if you are part of a swinging couple, we all ask: Why cheat??...Because sometimes it's about the excitement that comes from having a secret....that's one reason...another is that sometimes, it's about too many rules being put into place (yes even in the lifestyle...)...making it impossible for 1/2 of the couple to get anything good out of the lifestyle...What if Wifey says..."Sure, let's swing"...but all of the rules are in her favor??...What does a man do then???....She is getting all the good stuff and he is left sitting there waiting his turn that never comes...What then??...He finds a willing female (probably from contacts he and wifey have made...)...and he cheats. There are TONS of reasons or excuses for a male or female to cheat within the lifestyle...tons...just as there are tons of reasons and excuses for people to cheat outside of the lifestyle...

But here is the thing....If you got strange vibes or signals from someone...Why would you carry things on long enough to know whether they were cheating or not?...For us, strange signals tell us there is a problem somewhere...and we move on..fast. We also don't ask if a person is attached to someone else...not our business. We don't ask if a couple is "committed" one way or another...That is also not our business.

Would you ask someone if their marriage is a stable one and then bang them???...They have made a choice to participate...and to do things that perhaps could hurt someone emotionally...but any repercussions from their choice is their problem.

And...Just for the record..I am the female 1/2 of a swinging couple..neither of us have ever cheated (as far as I know)..and have no desire to....but whatever someone else decides to do is their business....

Party...what are you talking about with the following

and I have to say "necessarily" agree because I have known cheaters and what drove them to it.

No one can drive another to cheat....EVER.  If a person is not happy within themselves, or their situation, to have some respect for themselves and their partner, they should move on....

YES I know but situations so called come up.  YEAH they do and in particular the gal stays due to kids or "I luv him syndrome", and guys stay and cheat cause they get away with it.  All excuses and rationalizations.  Dont like your situation for whatever reason, get out...there is help every where.

People may not like what I posted...and may not agree...with the way I think or feel and I really don't care if anyone does...It is just that I tend to think that everything happens for a reason..and everyone has a reason behind what they do. It is not for us to question "why"...it's no ones business. Perhaps if a person doesn't like what they learn about someone else (such as they are cheating..) then they themselves should move on...to each his own. As for the "necessarily" part...I suppose I should have said that I do not condone cheating...but I have known some of the circumstances behind it and I do understand why they did it....I suppose maybe because these are friends I am talking about...it makes a difference...when I say "drove" someone to cheat...ya it can happen...just like someone can drive another to suicide...it CAN and frequently does. Sadly. Really though, we are talking though about 2 totally different kinds of situations here...the personal knowlege of a friend or friends...where their actions can and sometimes do affect us personally....and the cheating swingers...where their personal life should not be brought into the relationship....THAT would make them friends....See the difference?

I think too that all relationships within the lifestyle are different, there are so many variations...the Friends First Couples who like to know another couple well before they bang them, The Repeaters, that bang the same couples over and over, The One Night Standers, who meet other couples, fuck them and move on.... and then there are The Flirts who never actually get down to business with the couple they are flirting with...They go home and do each other...I could go on...but long story short is that everyone is doing something different within the lifestyle...Who cares what the next guy/girl is doing??...To each his own. We enjoy what we do and we leave the drama and personal business of others out of it. 

Oh...There is ONE MORE THING....haha....We are ALL totally off topic....lol...

hi there, just my 2 cents. im military and in the last 3 years ive been away for 26 months. my gf of 11 years and i have an agreement. i can play when im away and so can she. as long as we keep each other advised about our playtime then there is no foul. we do play together when i am home and that is rare.  honest enough?